Need scholarly advice,How to deal with others who r not honest,truthfull ,But close relative.?

I am facing a big problem in my social life.I have five children.Now its time to look for their matches.But the problem is i am very open and honest person and i talk straight,but the oposite party always take advantage of it .many time we fall in a situation bcoz of telling truth ,other acuses us but they dont fall in the situation bcoz they come out of it from the door of falsehood.for example if for some reason i am not in a situation to invite some one at my house ,how can i avoid without telling lie.but other people these days dont hesitate a bit to make exuses,they can easily say we r going for some urgent work.there r so many situations where i feel helpless .and dont know how to handle.


They make promiss but wont fullfill,So how can i trust them


They tell u some thing which is not correct.


So how we can deal with them coz TRUST is the Basic ingredient of relationship.


These days its almost impossible to find fair and straight forward people.


PLz advice me sincerelyNeed scholarly advice,How to deal with others who r not honest,truthfull ,But close relative.?
As you said ';These days its almost impossible to find fair and straight forward people';..





as simple as that...either you flow with the stream or choose to swim against the flow..its ur choice...Need scholarly advice,How to deal with others who r not honest,truthfull ,But close relative.?
You should not cut the ties of family this is the only advice that i can give you.





But advice them to speak the truth





Allah says in the Quran





';O you who believe have taqwa of Allah. And Always speak the truth (i.e.with what is good). He will perfect for you your action and forgive you your sins. And whomsoever obeys Allah and His messenger (then such a person) has achieved the greatest achievement';
Be patient first of all, and trust Allah swt.





Be formal and less talkative.





Try to learn face reading and body language.
You being an open and honest person is a high quality but is also very rare. Unfortunately most people are not going to be like you. You have to accept that and lower your expectations otherwise you won't have any kind of social life. Just understand that while you are probably admired by others they just don't have the ability be as you are.
First do u accept people in the same manner?


We can be very truthful but if some1 is saying the truth about us we feel hurt even if it's our own child. We feel offended.


2. Why don't we believe in decree(Qismah). When it's time 4 ur kids marriage it will happen no one can stop it . if it doesn't happen it's the will of Allah not coz some1 did something.


%26amp; if u r as u say then Allah will do the best 4 u %26amp; ur kids have strong Eman on Allah %26amp; remember evilness will only get back on those who r tryin in doin it. so don't worry.
Use somebody that knows the other party as well, a trusted person who will tell you the truth about them. In desi culture arranged marriages are matched through a respected relative or an elder or any other family member who may know some other youth who are ready to be married and their families. These ';middemen'; can give you info o nthe other party, if they are respectable, what their background is, the personality of the youth, etc.
No scholars here. sorry.