Any advice on how to be less shy and be outgoing? ?

I am not that shy ,but i just don't know what to say to girls to start up a conversation.





I think of things to say ,but they sound stupid so i just don't say much.





should I just use small talk ? like hey how are you?





also what is a way to be more outgoing?





I am going to start to work out .


I joined a car club to meet new people .


what else can i do?Any advice on how to be less shy and be outgoing? ?
Its great joining clubs to meet new people but are you wanting to meet new people? or new girls? because I don't think that there is a huge list of girls wanting to join a car club. I would say the best way to be outgoing and less shy is by being around people that make you feel more comfortable so this way when your out with them you already know that they make you feel more comfortable and this way you may feel a little more confident in what you do or say. The best way to get notice is by the way you dress and by the way you smell buy cologne, but don't shower yourself with it. I will never forget what this girl once said to me when I wore my cologne at work. She said, '; Hey you always know the right amount of cologne to put on because cologne is best when discovered not when you can smell it 100 yards away.'; The gym is a very good place to meet new people and new girls for sure. Do you like sports join a league or club, because someone on your team will have a girlfriend and she is going to go to all the games to support her man. Well she is going to drag her friend to go with her so she won't get bored and its going to be a single friend most of the time because why would a girl with a boyfriend want to go watch sports that her man is not playing for. A single girl would say yes because its a bunch of guys and she probably didn't have any plans herself. I think these are some good starts to get good with conversations and getting girls.Any advice on how to be less shy and be outgoing? ?
be more open if you see a hot girl walk by ask her something like do you have the time? start up a conversation! don't be scared or shy you'll never kno what's out there til you discover it! whatever comes out of your mouth is what suppose to come out just say it sum of us girls love dem silly guys

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Are you in school/college? If so it might be a good idea to join some student groups that force you to speak with others. You might be shy at first, but if its something that you're interested in you might find after a while that you have an easier time talking to people.





If not, you might want to consider asking questions that involve the other party to give detailed answers. You can even start small, by asking someone where they grew up, then asking what it was like there - what it was near, things to do, etc. Keep asking questions to learn about the other person and then hopefully they will ask you things about yourself. If you're shy I would suggest starting a convo with someone who is considered a ';friend'; and not a person of special interest....baby steps!





Good luck! And who cares if you sound stupid? If you're paranoid about what other people think of you and what you're saying, it makes it impossible for you to be more outgoing! You need to have confidence in yourself and until you do, you will continue to be shy!