How to advice a friend?

one of my best friends is in a complex situation. she has a boyfriend but she is currently working in another city. there she is living in a marine base where she met one of those military sailors, she kinda fell for him and they are having an affair. this guy has a girlfriend and my friend just found out he's getting married. she wants to dump her boyfriend and ask the sailor to dump his girlfriend. I think she's getting too involved and I keep telling her to get away from the sailor because he's obviously not taking her seriously but she ignores me, she just sinks deeper into that and keeps risking the good relationship she has. what can I do to bring her down to earth... I just don't know how to advice her anymore. what can I say to make her realise that the sailor is just playing?How to advice a friend?
Try talking to her again. It might not do much, but try.How to advice a friend?
you should always listen to a friend but never advise them then you will be friends for life
Unfortunately sometimes people dont listen to good advice and need to learn by their own mistakes. Just be there to pick up the pieces if it all goes wrong, and dont tell her you told her so!
It is a clear indication that your friend does not take you seriously, how come she does not listen to your advices. Let her do her own thing knowing that you have said what you had to say. Good luck.
You're going to continue being her best friend and realize from the bottoms of your feet to the top of your head that your message and good advice has fallen on deaf ears. Apparently, when love is involved (or possibly infatuation, in this case), the brains go out the window. So here is exactly what you are going to do: as a smart young woman, you are going to step back gracefully from your friend after telling her in precise, clear English that you are there for her is she would care to call you or drop by to visit, but that otherwise you are going to stay out of this matter from here on. You have actually done all you can to really help her. You have stated how it all appears to you, and that input should be invaluable to her, but her heart and mind are elsewhere, I believe. So, to continue being her best friend, you will be available to her if she wishes to get in touch with you, and otherwise you are going to do one of the hardest things a best friend can ever do: you are going to mind your own business. And as the other lady advised you, when your friend comes around (we can hope), be very sure in your heart that you do not say anything which could be remotely construed as ';I told you so.'; In the meantime, you will now have a little bit more time to be thinking of some other things you have been meaning to get to like sorting out your wardrobe, and getting ride of about 30% of it before it gets really cold out again. Sent to you with good energies from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old. I know that people love good advice if it is given once and with great earthshaking clarity, followed by an equally earthshaking silence.)
let her do her own thing if she doesn't want you to help her out w/ making a smart decision!! sorry but that's what i would do!!


GOOD LUCK!!
If you've tried talking to her allready and she still wont take heed of what you're saying then I think you need to step back and let her learn from her mistakes.


You've done your bit - Im sure she has a brain in her head and she realises the risk shes running by dumping her boyfriend etc.


All you can do now is stand back and be there for her when and if she ends up getting hurt - she'll only have herself to blame.
does it matter that the sailor is playing? I don't think so, what matters is your friend is playing also, her other relationship isn't going to work either so you need to stop trying to keep her in what you call a good relationship, it can't be that good can it??
Maybe she See's a little danger in this or he's giving her something her boyfriend is not ? you may have to let her make her own mind up as she might fall out with you if she thinks you are interfearing too much ?.