I need advice on how to approach my kids wanting to move in with their dad...?

He was an abuser to me and them, but they were so little they do not remember. I have always been told not to speak badly about him to them, but now they are saying they want to move in with him. I feel they need to know why I do not approve.


Do I:


Speak badly with only the truth,


or


Just say no and move on with life?I need advice on how to approach my kids wanting to move in with their dad...?
Sit them down %26amp; explain to them what used to happen. They are old enough to be told the truth. Don't speak badly of him just tell them the truth.I need advice on how to approach my kids wanting to move in with their dad...?
you should let them move in with there dad... and he would most obiously abuse them ... so they'll want to move back with you .. and than you guys go 2 court and you would obiously take custidy cause you're the mom and he beats them so he would like go to jail and you would get your kids ..

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you should tell them the truth, which would be giving them a really good reason not to go, but you don't have to yell, you can calmly explain it to them...
let the courts decide or just say no and try o explain that he's not the kind of guy you aprove of. They might just be saying that because they're mad at you. Just tell them no, your the parent and don't need to have a reason. Tell them you love them and would miss you terribly, you need them to live.
You don't mention how old they are. If they are old enough to understand fully you tell them the truth. You don't need to be graphic, just speak the truth. If they are still young you tell them their place is with you - end of discussion.
Really depends on how old they are now. If they are old enough to fully understand then you should be honest and tell them the truth. If they're not old enough just say no. Either way though they may still want to be with their dad.
If you say no they will grow up wanting to spend more time with him and they will leave you never to return.


1. Tell them the truth and nothing but the truth,


2.Tell them you wouldn't want to risk putting them in danger, and that you love them to much to put them in harms way.


3.Tell exactly what happend it will hurt them but they need to know.


4.May God be with you and your family, I'm praying for you.
First that depends on the age of your children. If they are old enough to comprehend what you are telling them. If they are, I say spill the beans, but keep it truthful and try not to hurt their feelings too much. If they are too young, I would just tell them no, and be the bad guy. - tell them they will understand when they get older. Or, You could always tell them how much it would hurt your feelings if they left you.
FInd out his story now. See if he's changed. If not, and hes still abusive, you don't have to badmouth him but simply say ';Daddy's sick right now and needs to get better before he can take care of you';





that's the truth and it's not cruel or hurtful towards him.